Doc Johnson The Li’l End Butt Plug Review


Oh lord, this toy. Let me tell you a story. Over a year ago, I found myself wanting to buy my very first butt plug. I had a very small amount of anal experience: enough to know that I like it but not enough to have inserted anything larger than a single finger. So of course I wanted a small beginner’s plug. I made a trip to Self Serve Toys and I ended up buying two (they were having a BOGO 1/2 off sale). I got the Doc Johnson Li’l End as well as the Doc Johnson Mood Naughty 2 in small during that shopping trip, and for a few months they were my only anal toys.


Li’l End compared to Tantus Little Flirt

The Li’l End is a pretty shimmery pink, 1″ diameter at the widest point, and very inexpensive, only $13 at SheVibe. It’s made of soft squishy silicone, very bendy and pliable. This was my first soft silicone toy; all the silicone I had encountered previously was rock hard. As evidenced by later toy purchases, I ended up loving the softness because it’s very comfortable and forgiving. Butt plugs made of harder materials are often more noticeable and more stimulating, but they can quickly grow uncomfortable. Toys with a curve have the same effects. To give some examples, my njoy pure plug, which is both curved and made of steel, is strictly a playtime plug for me. The Tantus Little Flirt, which is made of a firm but flexible silicone and is small and straight, can be worn for much longer periods of time. I also quite liked the shape of the Li’l End, even though it’s a very simple classic shape for a butt plug. The small tip and gradual increase in girth made insertion a bit easier than it is with front-loaded toys. I found thrusting to be easy with this plug, as it’s a bit longer than some other plugs and has no texture or curve that might impede thrusting. When in motion, the largest part of the plug slid in and out, which gave a stretch at my opening that I very much like.


However, this toy has a few fatal flaws. Firstly, for the life of me I cannot get it to stay in. I do not have this problem with any of my other small plugs of this size. Instead of remaining in my butt, like plugs are supposed to do, this plug is forever slipping right out. I think this has to do with the largest part of the plug being only infinitesimally larger than the neck. Without a small neck for my butt to close around, it just falls right out. Secondly, goodness gracious that base is huge. I understand now why other reviewers make such a fuss about butt plug bases. They make all the difference in whether or not a toy is enjoyable. This base does not fit between my butt cheeks. I have doubts that it would fit between any human’s butt cheeks. I have tried to fold the base to the sides in order to squeeze it between my butt cheeks, but it inevitably unfolds and pops out. With the base all the way on the other end of my butt cheeks, the plug is barely inserted, which also leads to the plug falling out. So, that base is two kinds of unpleasant and inconvenient.

As much as I loved the squishy silicone, I just can’t recommend the Li’l End Butt Plug because it does not function as a plug. If you want a small butt plug, I recommend the Tantus Little Flirt if you want a tapered tip, the Mood Naughty 2 in small if you want something curved and front loaded, or the njoy Pure Plug in small if you want lots of prostate or G-spot stimulation.

On Self Care and Motivation


Like many other humans, I sometimes have trouble with self care. It gets extra hard when I’m depressed, because I feel like I have to conserve my energy to do the things that I have to do, like go to work, instead of things that will make me feel better, like making food for myself. I happen to really struggle with showering regularly, even though my mood consistently improves after I shower and I’m much more comfortable when I’m clean. There are many wonderful lists online about how to do self care, actions that you can take to make yourself feel better. While these are great and can be really helpful, I’ve found far fewer suggestions on how to convince yourself to actually do any of these self care tasks.  There are many ways to care for yourself, but when I’m stressed or depressed or worn out, it can be hard to find the motivation.

One trick I’ve found that works for me is pretending that I am taking care of a child that I love, instead of myself. I say to myself “If Annamarie was a small child in my care, what would I do?” If Annamarie needed to take a shower, what would I do? I would kindly and firmly insist that she take one, and give her a shower, and make sure she got properly clean. I would be patient with her if she grumbled or whined, and never get upset or be mean. I would also refuse to let her get out of showering just because she was being grumpy, because I know that it’s truly good for her.

If I were taking care of a child that I loved and not myself, I wouldn’t resent that I had to take care of them. Of course I do, I’m responsible for them, and it’s not like a small child can take care of themselves. I wouldn’t get angry at them for not being able to do everything that I want them to. I would praise them for trying, instead of swearing at them for failing. I would be gentle with them and let them make mistakes. I would comfort them when they were sad, and make sure they feel loved and taken care of.

Of course, this is the ideal. It doesn’t account for exhaustion, or frustration, or other things that can make someone act in ways that are less than perfect when caring for children. But it helps me to remember this ideal. This is how I would want to treat someone in my care, and how I would want to be treated by a caregiver. So why should taking care of myself be any different? If I would be kinder to someone else for whom their care is my responsibility, why am I being so hard on myself?

For me, at least, it helps to step back and remember that I am a person whose care is my responsibility. I am capable of extending kindness and patience to others, and I can and should extend that same compassion to myself. I am deserving of respect and understanding, just like everyone else, but sometimes it’s easier to love the people whose consciousnesses I don’t have to exist within. I know I’m not alone in this: a lot of people are a lot more loving and kind towards their close friends than they are towards themselves. Something you can try is stepping back and saying, “If my best friend was in this situation, how would I respond?” Replace “best friend” with “sibling” or “child” or “partner” or whatever works for you.

Have you ever tried this technique? How did it go for you? How do you motivate yourself to do self care?

KinkCraft Figure-8 Cuffs Kit Review


Y’all, I’m really excited. Look at these gorgeous cuffs that I made! For those of you who aren’t familiar with KinkCraft, they’re a small business based in the UK that makes handmade kink gear, and what makes them special is they also have online courses that teach you how to make said kink gear yourself! As a person who likes to be tied up and also likes crafts like knitting, their whole concept makes me really happy. The way it works is you can either buy the online course by itself, or a kit that includes all the necessary materials as well, and it’s a kit that I’m reviewing today. I previously tried and reviewed their Mini Flogger and Connected Cuffs kits, and while I really liked how easy to make and fun to use the Mini Flogger was, I really struggled with the Connected Cuffs and ended up with a pair that is too small for me to use. To be fair, the Connected Cuffs are listed as an intermediate course, and were maybe not the best to start out with. KinkCraft was kind enough to send me their beginner cuff kit, the Figure-8 Cuffs Kit.

The Figure-8 Cuffs were in fact easier to make than the Connected Cuffs. Like all their other kits, all the supplies came in a pretty gift box, with tissue paper and a ribbon to boot. One thing I liked about the Figure-8 Cuffs as compared to the Connected Cuffs is that for the Figure-8 Cuffs, all the hard parts are at the beginning and the end. Getting started can be a bit tricky, as that’s when you have to do all the measuring and make sure that everything is precisely the right length because you can’t fix it later. Also, I managed to put my o-ring in upside down and had to remove it and do it over. Finishing the cuffs involves using a lighter to seal the knots, you only have a couple of seconds while the paracord is molten to push the ends together and seal them. As you can see in the picture above, I didn’t do the neatest job. However, for most of the two hours that I spent working on these cuffs, I was just braiding. Like last time, my favorite part of making these cuffs was the braid. I enjoy the meditative repetitiveness of making the knots over and over again and watching my work materialize. I listened to music and sang along while doing the braid, which was lovely. While there are tricky parts, they are comparatively fewer than for the Connected Cuffs, and you spend a much larger portion of the time making knots. I liked that I didn’t have to stop in the middle of making the braid to worry about measurements and buckles this time. Overall, it was a much easier and less stressful experience.

I have to admit that I didn’t actually understand how the Figure-8 Cuffs work before I made them. I thought that the o-ring was permanently attached to both sides of the cuffs, and couldn’t understand how I was supposed to get my hand in and out of the side without the buckle. Well these cuffs aren’t nearly so poorly designed, rest assured. It’s one long straight piece of paracord braid: you bring the other buckle through the o-ring to make the cuffs. It’s quite brilliant, actually. If you want to make your cuffs tight, you can do that, and put them on someone’s wrists by wrapping it around one wrist, then pulling the buckle through the o-ring and around their other wrist. I like my cuffs secure, which is one of the reasons I originally opted for the Connected Cuffs, thinking they had to be much more restraining than the Figure-8 Cuffs. I made my pair a little bit bigger than necessary, so I can wriggle my hand in and out without unclasping them. That’s a totally valid option if you like the added safety feature of being able to get free in a pinch, but you can also make them tighter so that it’s not possible. Hurray for having options! In use, the Figure-8 Cuffs work nicely: they keep my wrists together and don’t get in the way. I can turn my wrists around inside of them, which is convenient for positioning, and again, depends on how tight you make them. Paracord is not the softest material, and can cause some chafing. Personally, I don’t mind at all, as I enjoy the roughness. Just be aware of the potential for rugburn and proceed accordingly.

Overall, I’m thrilled with the Figure-8 Cuffs Kit. KinkCraft makes quality, durable products, and the kits provide the ability to customize your gear as wanted. It was significantly easier to make than the Connected Cuffs, and I think the Figure-8 Cuffs are a much better option for those of us who aren’t paracord craft experts. If you want the easiest craft possible, the Mini Flogger is the way to go, as it is both simpler and less time consuming. If you want to make your own cuffs, definitely go for the Figure-8 Cuffs Kit.

If you want a pair of Figure-8 Cuffs, you can get the kit, the online course alone, or buy it ready-made, all from KinkCraft’s site.

I was sent the Figure 8 Cuffs Kit in exchange for an honest unbiased review.